Valentine’s Day is not always a happy day for all of us because some of our relationships are not always filled with love and kisses. Instead, they are filled with hate and fists. Being in an abusive relationship where you are always fighting over who is in charge can be very stressful and painful. If you are one of those people who are in an abusive relationship, you may hate Valentine’s Day or be thankful that Valentine’s Day is finally over.
Abusive relationships are usually motivated by obsession, control and jealousy. Many of the time, the abusive relationship occurs because of a misunderstanding of each other’s needs. Abusive relationships can affect us at the physical, emotional or mental level. In the majority of cases, abusive relationships usually involve all three of these state (physical, emotional and mental). Because of this, it is usually wise to learn how to free yourself from physically, emotionally and mentally abusive relationships.
How to free yourself from a physically abusive relationship
No one has the right to physically abuse you. If you are being physically abused, you need to get yourself out of the abusive relationship until things calm down. The urgency of getting yourself out of the abusive relationship will depend on how serious the abuse is. Temporary leaving a physically abusive relationship may not always be easy but it will give you time to think about what you really want. If you think that the two of you can work things out, you may want to set up a time when the two of you can talk in peace. If you do not think the two of you can work things out, the two of you may want to get counseling or end the relationship. You should never believe that you have no power in an abusive relationship. Abusers cannot play their role without the participation of victims. If you allow your partner to physically abuse you, you are playing the victim role; therefore, you are giving your power away and doing your partner a favor.
How to free yourself from an emotionally abusive relationship
Emotionally abusive relationships are similar to mentally abusive relationships because they usually involve brainwashing the victims through words and other communication methods to lower their self-esteem. To control victims’ emotions, abusers will usually use fear because it is the most effective tool to control victims without their knowledge. Once abusers are able to control their victims, the relationships become more like a bad child parent relationship. The victims are always seeking for approval before they act and they become too dependent on their abusers. They may even feel that they cannot go on in life without their abusers. If you are in an emotionally abusive relationship, you must learn how to overcome your fear. One of the best ways to do this is to face your fears. Other great ways to reduce your fear are to seek knowledge of empowerment and learn to overcome your ego.
How to free yourself from a mentally abusive relationship
Mentally abusive relationships usually involve abusers attacking victims through the use of words and other communication methods to lower their victims’ self-esteems. The reason for doing this is to make victims think that they are to blame for their abuse. If you are involved in a mentally abusive relationship, one of the first things you should do is not allow your partner brainwash you any further. If your partner becomes successful at brainwashing you into thinking that you are the source of the problem, then you will blindly accept whatever your partner says about you. To prevent your partner from destroying your self-esteem, start seeking knowledge of empowerment, taking control of your life and learning to love yourself.
What you should never do in an abusive relationship
One of the most important things you should never do is to blame yourself for being in an abusive relationship. When you blame yourself, you are putting yourself in a state of victim consciousness. This state is the main reason why victims have such a hard time freeing themselves from abusive relationships.
How to dramatically reduce your risk of abusive relationships in the future
To dramatically reduce the amount of abusive relationships in the future, you must have a basic understanding of one of the most influential laws of the Universe. This law is known as the Law of Attraction. In simple terms, the Law of Attraction utilizes your thoughts and actions to attract certain experiences that you want into your life. To understand how the Law of Attraction plays an important role in abusive relationships, lets look at how it can attract abusive situations into your life. When you constantly have a victim attitude, it puts you in a state of victim consciousness. The Law of Attraction then draws in negative experiences to exploit your consciousness until you learn your lesson.
Victim consciousness draws in not only negative experiences but also the right people to help support these negative experiences. For example, people who have victim attitudes will draw fellow victims as well as abusers to exploit their consciousness. They will often wonder why they keep attracting abusive partners. They do not realize that they attract abusive partners because of the way they think. Because of how the Law of Attraction works, if you keep thinking that you are a victim, you will never free yourself from victim situations or abusive relationships.